How To End A 'Friends With Benefits' Relationship And Remain Just Friends

 

A Friends with Benefits (Fwb) relationship can be fun and empowering, but it may not always be the best fit for your lifestyle. These relationships may come to an end for a lot of reasons, whether it’s a change of heart or priorities.

It can be difficult to break up with a Fwb, but it’s most important to put your own thoughts and feelings first.

With a healthy, open dialogue, you may be able to find closure in your own Fwb relationship without having to end the friendship.

In every single woman’s life, there almost certainly will come a time when you have to call the game with a friend with benefits. But since you’re not technically dating, it can be hard to know where to start.

Sometimes it can be tempting to just ghost a f*ck buddy, especially if they’re not part of your inner social circle. But don’t do that.

There are other ways to end your friends with benefits relationship that show you respect them and the little fling you had. Plus, why burn bridges if you don’t have to?

HOW TO END A FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS RELATIONSHIP AND STAY FRIENDS

Try To Taper Off Sex Before You Break It Off.

The more sex you have leading up to the breakup, the harder it will be to cut things off. Your best bet is to stop having sex in the weeks leading up to it.

This will create both physical and emotional distance between the two of you.

Make Sure They Know You Appreciate Them As A Friend.

Let them know you care about your friendship, but you think the benefits have run their course. It was fun while it lasted, but it is time to move on.

Make sure they know they weren’t just casual sex because you do care for them but need to take dating more seriously.

Be Honest If He Asks You Why, But Don’t Back Down On Your Decision.

A lot of people will want to know why a breakup occurs, especially if they are worried about their own behavior. When breaking things off with a FWB, it’s a good idea to remain pretty open and honest about what made you decide to end things.

If it’s because you saw someone else and decided to date them, tell them before they see the photos online. It will sting if it’s a surprise.

Ask If They Are Upset

After all, they are your friend. Talk to them and ask if they saw it coming. Try to communicate as effectively as you can.

Let them know why you want to end things and make sure they know you are still there for them as a friend.

Stick To Your Guns If They Try To Bargain With You

Don’t falter if your friend starts getting really emotional. They may start making demands or promises to change, but do your best to put your foot down. Keep emphasizing that this relationship isn’t good for your emotional health, and that you need to take a step back for yourself.

Don’t Avoid Them

Developing a friends with benefits situation with someone meant that you both agreed to be honest. If you plan on being friends after ending the benefits, ghosting is not an option.

Refusing to answer them afterwards and leaving them high and dry is both rude, disrespectful and cowardly.

No good friend should act like that. Just let them know how you’re feeling. They will understand if they are a good friend.

Keep Making An Effort With Them.

It can be really easy to think that ending a FWB relationship will be easier if you just cut that person out of your life.

That’s definitely not the case, and will probably harm your friendship.

Make sure you keep chatting to each other, meeting up, hanging out in groups etc. – whatever works for you both.

Check How They Feel.

This one is so important.

If the decision to go back to being just friends was yours, you need to consider how the other person is feeling.

Sure, they might have gone along with your choice or agreed with you, but there may be some part of them that misses that relationship – or even has some feelings for you.

Try to be careful while you navigate the transition to being friends again.

Be mindful of their feelings, check in with them, and be kind.

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