8 Reasons Why Loving Someone Too Much Kills the Love

 

Too much of anything is bad. Sometimes we are so much in love with a person that we fail to imagine a world without them.

They become our topmost priority and we channelize all our energies towards making them happy.

Our life revolves around them and we love them more than anybody or anything else in the world. That, at times, lead to us getting overprotective about them.

You must have unconditional love for your partner but make sure that you do not get overboard with affection.

They should flourish under the shadow of your love and not feel suffocated because of it.

Here are 8 reasons why loving someone too much kills the love.

Leads to boredom

When you love someone too much and spend most of your time with them, the mystery and intrigue of your relationship dies.

Over familiarity seeps in and soon you find you both do not have much to discuss about.

The conversations will seem stretched and get dull. When you meet less frequently, you will realize you have a lot of things to discuss.

Distance not only makes the heart grow fonder but it allows for some breathing space between two people.

Taking them away from friends

When you are in love, you long for your partner and always feel the desire to meet them or to be with them.

You always urge your partner to spend their free time with you and in the process you end up taking them away from their friends and other important people in their lives.

You might be an important part of your life but they have other important people in their lives too. You must make an effort to get along with their friends as well.

You neglect yourself and other who care about you

You might neglect your own self. And stop pampering yourself because you’re too busy caring for your loved one.

You stop looking for self-growth because your only focus is your loved ones.

There is a chance that you lose several opportunities along the way because you get too busy focusing on the one you love.

Neglecting yourself because of too much love for someone might backfire and make you feel you have not made much of your life.

You might have no time to spare for your family.

Have you been missing out on important family gatherings? Has it been ages since you last ate dinner with your family?

Loving someone too much might take even the time you spend with your family.

You become overprotective about them

It is good to be protective about your partner but being too overprotective is not a good thing.

We like being looked after by our loved ones but would not appreciate it if somebody is keeping an eye on us constantly.

Even if your intention is not to keep a tab on your partner's activities, if you are overprotective about them, they will think that you do not trust them.

That will lead to many more misunderstandings which will have an adverse impact on your relationship.

You might be too blind to see what’s right

If you love someone too much, your reasoning might be clouded. It will be difficult to see what’s right or wrong.

For example, you might come to a point in your relationship where you will find emotional and physical abuse okay just because you love your partner.

You might even find it acceptable if your partner gets a third party as long as he or she keeps a relationship with you. Being blind because of excessive love can warp your reasoning.

Stifle their independence

You will not give your significant other the important chance to be who they are if you smother them with too much attention. Decisions that they make have to involve you, whether they want to or not.

From simple things such as when to hop into the shower, to what they want to have for dinner, to deciding whether to make a career move to another country, you snatch away your partner’s chance of being independent when you are constantly in their face.

Loss of self and individuality

You start losing yourself and individuality and start adopting your significant other’s interests even if you are not comfortable. It is okay to check out and learn more about your partner’s likes.

However, shadowing or the following someone is unsuitable and gives an impression that you don’t have any interests of your own.

CREDIT: Fakazanews